Thoughts on Canes

I was thinking about canes today and I felt like writing about them.  Canes are one of those implements I find everyone has a strong opinion about.  You either love them or hate them.  They can excite the body or inspire fear, but I have never heard anyone say they are ambivalent towards them. 

Personally, I am a huge fan of rattan canes.  I do not like delrin canes at all though.  I find the swish and sting of rattan to be a delicious combination of agony and pleasure that no other implement can replicate.  I know there are a lot of people who have a fear of canes and do not wish to try them.  I never expected I would be a fan, but after the first few times I was hooked.

I wish I could explain how it feels to me and really do it justice. On impact the cane stroke stings, but then it seems to dig in deeper into my bottom and grab hold.  I like my cane strokes nice and slow so I have plenty of time to ride the pain through it's phases.  After that initial sting and bite, there is an emotional buildup inside of me that I have to breathe through as the pain dulls.  After enough repetitions the emotion will bubble over and spill out either in tears or giggles.  The first time I started laughing during a hard spanking I think it freaked Simon out, but the endorphins build up and have to go somewhere! 

Simon likes to count.  Or more specifically likes me to count.  It serves two purposes, it lets him feel toppy and it lets him know when I am ready for the next stroke.  When I growl out the next number between clenched teeth, or sob or giggle it, he knows I am done milking the last one and ready for a fresh wave of pain, pleasure, endorphins, and emotions.  Originally, I was against counting but it has become very useful for us. 

As I mentioned above, I am a rattan fan but I dislike delrin.  I find delrin canes to be much too rigid and the impact feels too deep.  I always say it feels like getting caned with a tree limb when we try to use the delrin.  Simon does not care for it either, he does not like the balance of the delrin cane we have and it just doesn't have the same swish.  I have not tried acrylic but I doubt I would like it much since it is also a hard plastic material.  I find I prefer natural materials like wood, leather and rattan for my implements over plastics.

We became fond of the cane while we were both living in apartments.  It is a quiet implement (as long as I don't yelp too loud) and we prefer to keep the neighbors out of our sex life.  At one time, Simon was able to warm me up only using the cane and did a very good job of it.  We're a little out of practice on that now that we have a house and don't need to be as quiet, but I bet it would come back to us quickly if we tried!

Right now I only own one rattan cane from Cane-iac.  It has lasted an amazing 2 years.  Considering we broke our first 2 within a few short months, this one has really stood the test of time and bottom.  I will be ever so sad when we finally break it over my backside, it has a lot of good memories.  I am hoping Simon will start feeling better soon so we can order a few new canes to play with.  I would like to try mixing things up with different sizes.  We've only tried a couple and I would like to expand our horizons in that area. 

I found this great picture at American Spanking Society, I am not sure who the credit belongs to, but I just love it.  The marks are so clear and beautiful.  You can almost feel each stroke just looking at it.  Caning is an art form when done by a knowledgeable and talented top.  I am lucky Simon is both! 

Good Pain, Bad Pain

Lately bad pain has been keeping me from the good pain I enjoy so much.  Simon has been hurting pretty bad from an old ankle injury that never quite healed right after surgery.  Now that he is on his feet at work all day it has flared up and is making him miserable. 

He went to the Dr. today and she gave him something for the swelling and ordered x-rays.  I hope we can get him some relief. I am off work this week and it has become much more obvious to me how much he is really hurting.  I'm starting to understand why he never wants to play spanko games!  It hurts too much to stand on it and it hurts too much to have me over his lap squirming around and bumping it.

Our new sleigh bed frame arrived today and it raised the bed up so high I think I may need a step stool!  I am worried it will not be ankle-friendly for Simon getting in and out of bed.  I am the one who picked out this bed and I will feel bad if it makes it hard for him.  You know, I just realized... he lets me have whatever I want.  Sometimes I feel like I spoil him too much and he has me wrapped around his finger and it irritates me, but here I am lying on the bed I picked out typing this post.  Interesting.  Maybe I am a little spoiled too!

Saturday I am meeting Simon's parents for the first time.  I am pretty sure they will like me, but it's still a little stressful.  I have started cleaning the house, but I will have to really get a lot done tomorrow.   Gotta make that first impression!

Hopefully, we can get Simon's bad pain under control so he can start dishing out good pain to me again soon. 

I've Been A Naughty Blogger, Someone Should Spank Me!

I have definitely neglected my blog lately and I do apologize.  It has been a busy month and I have not had a lot of interesting things to say.  Simon is working full time now, a mix of days and evenings that means there are days when I see him for about 5 minutes (at most) when we are both awake.  That is not fun, and I am not used to it yet.  We're still in a spanking slump and we don't know why.  We want to do it, but it just seems like so much work.  Same thing with sex.  I know it's an important part of a relationship and I do miss feeling intimate, but lately it seems like we are never in the mood at the same time.  For either activity.  In a way, I almost wish we had some sort of structure like the discipline couples do.  Maybe then we would not let "us" slide so far. 

I feel like I am disconnected from the community too.  Over the years, I have enjoyed getting to know like-minded spankos online.  I have never been to parties or participated in local kink groups, so the online community has been where I could go to talk to others about TTWD.  For the last year or so I have struggled to find a chat room that I enjoy.  I like a relaxed environment with friendly people who know how to respect boundaries, but still have fun.  I'm not single so I am not interested in meeting a spanker or lover, just making friends and hanging out.  If anyone knows a place they can recommend, please let me know.  I miss chatting and I get lonely when Simon is at work.  And maybe getting back to talking to others who love this will spark something for us and help bring us back to why we love it too.