Thoughts on Canes

I was thinking about canes today and I felt like writing about them.  Canes are one of those implements I find everyone has a strong opinion about.  You either love them or hate them.  They can excite the body or inspire fear, but I have never heard anyone say they are ambivalent towards them. 

Personally, I am a huge fan of rattan canes.  I do not like delrin canes at all though.  I find the swish and sting of rattan to be a delicious combination of agony and pleasure that no other implement can replicate.  I know there are a lot of people who have a fear of canes and do not wish to try them.  I never expected I would be a fan, but after the first few times I was hooked.

I wish I could explain how it feels to me and really do it justice. On impact the cane stroke stings, but then it seems to dig in deeper into my bottom and grab hold.  I like my cane strokes nice and slow so I have plenty of time to ride the pain through it's phases.  After that initial sting and bite, there is an emotional buildup inside of me that I have to breathe through as the pain dulls.  After enough repetitions the emotion will bubble over and spill out either in tears or giggles.  The first time I started laughing during a hard spanking I think it freaked Simon out, but the endorphins build up and have to go somewhere! 

Simon likes to count.  Or more specifically likes me to count.  It serves two purposes, it lets him feel toppy and it lets him know when I am ready for the next stroke.  When I growl out the next number between clenched teeth, or sob or giggle it, he knows I am done milking the last one and ready for a fresh wave of pain, pleasure, endorphins, and emotions.  Originally, I was against counting but it has become very useful for us. 

As I mentioned above, I am a rattan fan but I dislike delrin.  I find delrin canes to be much too rigid and the impact feels too deep.  I always say it feels like getting caned with a tree limb when we try to use the delrin.  Simon does not care for it either, he does not like the balance of the delrin cane we have and it just doesn't have the same swish.  I have not tried acrylic but I doubt I would like it much since it is also a hard plastic material.  I find I prefer natural materials like wood, leather and rattan for my implements over plastics.

We became fond of the cane while we were both living in apartments.  It is a quiet implement (as long as I don't yelp too loud) and we prefer to keep the neighbors out of our sex life.  At one time, Simon was able to warm me up only using the cane and did a very good job of it.  We're a little out of practice on that now that we have a house and don't need to be as quiet, but I bet it would come back to us quickly if we tried!

Right now I only own one rattan cane from Cane-iac.  It has lasted an amazing 2 years.  Considering we broke our first 2 within a few short months, this one has really stood the test of time and bottom.  I will be ever so sad when we finally break it over my backside, it has a lot of good memories.  I am hoping Simon will start feeling better soon so we can order a few new canes to play with.  I would like to try mixing things up with different sizes.  We've only tried a couple and I would like to expand our horizons in that area. 

I found this great picture at American Spanking Society, I am not sure who the credit belongs to, but I just love it.  The marks are so clear and beautiful.  You can almost feel each stroke just looking at it.  Caning is an art form when done by a knowledgeable and talented top.  I am lucky Simon is both! 

Good Pain, Bad Pain

Lately bad pain has been keeping me from the good pain I enjoy so much.  Simon has been hurting pretty bad from an old ankle injury that never quite healed right after surgery.  Now that he is on his feet at work all day it has flared up and is making him miserable. 

He went to the Dr. today and she gave him something for the swelling and ordered x-rays.  I hope we can get him some relief. I am off work this week and it has become much more obvious to me how much he is really hurting.  I'm starting to understand why he never wants to play spanko games!  It hurts too much to stand on it and it hurts too much to have me over his lap squirming around and bumping it.

Our new sleigh bed frame arrived today and it raised the bed up so high I think I may need a step stool!  I am worried it will not be ankle-friendly for Simon getting in and out of bed.  I am the one who picked out this bed and I will feel bad if it makes it hard for him.  You know, I just realized... he lets me have whatever I want.  Sometimes I feel like I spoil him too much and he has me wrapped around his finger and it irritates me, but here I am lying on the bed I picked out typing this post.  Interesting.  Maybe I am a little spoiled too!

Saturday I am meeting Simon's parents for the first time.  I am pretty sure they will like me, but it's still a little stressful.  I have started cleaning the house, but I will have to really get a lot done tomorrow.   Gotta make that first impression!

Hopefully, we can get Simon's bad pain under control so he can start dishing out good pain to me again soon. 

I've Been A Naughty Blogger, Someone Should Spank Me!

I have definitely neglected my blog lately and I do apologize.  It has been a busy month and I have not had a lot of interesting things to say.  Simon is working full time now, a mix of days and evenings that means there are days when I see him for about 5 minutes (at most) when we are both awake.  That is not fun, and I am not used to it yet.  We're still in a spanking slump and we don't know why.  We want to do it, but it just seems like so much work.  Same thing with sex.  I know it's an important part of a relationship and I do miss feeling intimate, but lately it seems like we are never in the mood at the same time.  For either activity.  In a way, I almost wish we had some sort of structure like the discipline couples do.  Maybe then we would not let "us" slide so far. 

I feel like I am disconnected from the community too.  Over the years, I have enjoyed getting to know like-minded spankos online.  I have never been to parties or participated in local kink groups, so the online community has been where I could go to talk to others about TTWD.  For the last year or so I have struggled to find a chat room that I enjoy.  I like a relaxed environment with friendly people who know how to respect boundaries, but still have fun.  I'm not single so I am not interested in meeting a spanker or lover, just making friends and hanging out.  If anyone knows a place they can recommend, please let me know.  I miss chatting and I get lonely when Simon is at work.  And maybe getting back to talking to others who love this will spark something for us and help bring us back to why we love it too. 

Good News!

Things have been busy around here this last week.  Simon got a new job!  They called and offered it to him today and we are so excited!  We're going to have a little weekend getaway to celebrate since he will almost certainly be working most or all weekends to start out.  I am planning to pack a few implements in my suitcase and see if we can knock the dust off of them.  They get sad when they don't get to come out and play often enough!  Hmmm what to pack, what to pack...

Just A Quick Post

No spanking action here this week.  Just a quick note so you all don't think I am dead.  Friday I was so sick I wished I was dead.  Either my new medication made me sick or I had a stomach bug or both.  My doctor put me back on my old medicine since I was feeling sick all week.  Now we don't know what I am going to take.  Sigh.

Simon is hopefully working quite a bit this week.  He has been going through a temp agency and it varies a lot.  He had an interview last week for a full time job with another company and they had him go do the drug screening.  Cross your fingers he gets it!

At some point, I am going to need to decide what I want to be when I grow up too.  I just don't see my current job being one I can retire from in 30 or 40 years.  My problem is I don't know what I want to do and I have a hard time staying focused on one thing.  I lose interest easily.  I think that's a by-product of a medical condition I have and the medication that treats it. 

Well, I am going to go make dinner before I ramble on any farther.  I just wanted to say hi!

Spanked Warm and Rosy

I was napping and minding my own business.  Simon was watching stupid baseball on TV, but the game was rained out or whatever and he came up to find me.  He decided it was time for my spanking.  I was not 100% on board with a spanking interupting my nap but I was awake enough to know I better not pass up the moment!

So, pretty much every implement we own gets dumped out on the bed and I try to remember why I like this again.  Oh yeah, because I am crazy.  Got it.  So face down on the bed I go into a pile of pillows.  Simon decides to warm up with the cane.  I yelp that that is NOT a warm up.  (Actually, with practice it can be a great warmup, but we are out of practice!)  He switched to other things that made me squawk then settled on the lovely leather paddle.  It's my favorite.  I got that with some hand spanking for a little bit.  The wooden spoon snuck in some too.  I hate that stingy thing and he likes the noises I make when he uses it. 

Ow! Ow! Hey that hurts! Ow!

Then someone decided I did not need pants. 

Hey!  Those are my personal pants!  I didn't say you could pull them down!  

Oh I need to ask?

Yes you do!

No I don't.  WHACK WHACK WHACK!

OWWWW!

The middle of the spanking is a blur of wooden spoon, bath brush, leather strap, rubber paddle, delrin loop, leather paddle, cane and wooden school paddle.  I think there was a fair amount of swearing in there too.  What is it about canes that suddenly make spankers the swear word police?

Since we've been playing bingo recently he thought it was a good idea to sing that stupid song and keep time with each implement.

B-I-N-G-O, B-I-N-G-O, B-I-N-G-O, and Bingo was his name O!

Luckily several of the nastier ones only got one B-I-N-G-O!  That many with the delrin loop would have knocked the wind out of me.

As we were winding down, he asked if I wanted to finish with the cane.

Maybe.

Do you want to count 12?

Maybe.

Do you want to be done after that?

Maybe.

Twelve lovely cane strokes later I found myself clearing off the dining room table and bending over for "six of the best" with the school paddle.  I tried to convince him six of the medium was enough but I guess that didn't have the same ring to it.  How can you not love a guy who doesn't fall for that?  I am expecting a bruise or two, I need to check later for sure.  The soreness doesn't last long for me but I do still have that warm rosy feeling on my backside.  Sigh.  Happiness.

I love this crazy thing we do.  Even when it hurts and I question why I like it, I still like it.  The pain is still pain, but feels good too.  I yelp and squawk about it and fuss that I am not taking my spanking gracefully enough, but I take everything he gives me.  I don't understand it all and probably never will. but it continues to fascinate me and probably always will. 

Birthday Spanking and Vacation Wrap-up

Well, today is the last day of my vacation and I am probably more tired than when I started!  I last left off on Wednesday, so I will write a quick post from Thursday on.

Thursday was my birthday and it kind of sucked.  The world just would not leave us alone.  At 7am we dropped Simon's car off at the mechanic and came home with the intention of climbing back into bed for a nap and/or a cuddle.  My head was hurting from my new meds so I was leaning towards nap, but then the phone rang and the world butted in.  Simon's work called and he needed to get over to the place he had temped on Wednesday to fill out some paperwork NOW.  Ugh.  So, I had to drive him over and wait in the car for him to finish.  I waited and waited and waited.  By the time he came out it had been an hour and I was starving and if I did not find a bathroom soon I was going to wet my pants.  Top it off that I was on day 2 of my new medication and I was feeling pretty emotional already so I had a minor meltdown that ended up with us having brunch at Denny's. 

We were home around 11 or 12 and the day just kind of continued.  We tried again on the nap and both of our mothers called.  At some point I slept a little because I had one of those frustrating sex dreams where you never actually get to have sex.  Then in the afternoon we had to go get the car.  I dropped him off and ran to the grocery store to grab dinner.  He called me to tell me that the mechanic did finish the car so it will pass emissions, but now we would need to go back and get him to sign a form for something else.  We had forgotten to print the form and it was closing time, so we would get to go back on Friday. Joy. 

Thursday night Simon was in a funk and kept apologizing for ruining my birthday.  I told him the whole week had been my birthday and I was not upset.  It was not his fault the world would not leave us alone!  He did give me my birthday spanking before bed.  A medium strength hand spanking over the bed with my pants still on.  Not totally what we both had in mind but a step in the right direction for sure!

Friday we ran errands in the morning and then got the idea we should go do something very naughty.  It's a secret and no one knows we went.  Except now the 3-4 people who read my blog lol.  We snuck away on the casino bus and went back and gambled for the day again. We were not as lucky as last time, we lost a little bit but we came home with about half of what we had taken to spend.  I am happy with that!  We got home about 2 am, so it was nice to have someone else do the driving.  The bus is free and picks up about 8 blocks from our house so it's great for a day trip.  For overnighters we prefer to drive.

Saturday we ran a couple errands in the morning then finally got to relax in the afternoon.  We finally got some "nap" time too.  No spankings, but some nice massages and cuddling time.  I have been promised a spanking today, so I am hoping nothing else gets in the way of our alone time.  I don't know how people with kids ever find time to be together.  It seems like we're constantly running in opposite directions and the world keeps butting in!